Whip Me, Beat Me -- And Call It Girlfriend Experience

What the hell, Rose. I went to your blog and damn if I could figure out what the hell you're doing!

Simply put, my blog, my work, can be confusing to some.

I speak of loneliness and then describe how I enjoy having my bum smacked soundly while called a slut. Which would be fine or at least understandable to some, but then I'm right into how you a man ought to submit to me, adding a dash of love letters and GFE...

Am I a Domme, a sub, a nice girl helping out shy guys, a not-so-nice dirty girl helping men get off? Yes, yes, yes and yes.

And the truth is, I don't find it confusing or contradictory at all.

Forget words like 'switch'. Forget about 'kink', 'weird' and 'dirty'. Forget for a moment, if you can, the notion that phone sex operators are only fantasy girls, erotic sex performers whose moist mouths blow dry words across telephone connections for the ultimate goal of men spewing their wads all for a price. Let's look at what I do -- what I believe I do.

Humans have needs. Sexual needs and the need for companionship. Some people are very aware of what their needs are, can even spot what is sex, what is loneliness, as well as when/where/if the two intersect. Most of these are the folks who call PSOs or hire some shade of sex worker because going it alone (via trip in their own mind, or with a story or film) just isn't enough. Some clients do not know why they do what they do, have not put their finger on why they must dial, but at some level they've recognized that 'alone' is not enough and that they cannot reach that itch and scratch it satisfactorily themselves. They have a need of us.

The sex worker fills, at some level, a need for companionship; we, I, ease the loneliness.

The sex is the work, the act, for which we get paid; but companionship is the customer service which sets us apart -- not just from other sex workers but from solo masturbation. You can milk yourself, so why ask me to help you do it? It's because I provide an emotional, esoteric, helping hand.

Companionship, easing loneliness, is important; as important as the sex itself. Each actually has varying degrees of importance -- as varied as the sex acts themselves. That's why people call. To get some help getting the story & context out of their heads & hearts and into some sort of action, some sort of reality. It requires understanding of more than parts and friction, but emotional and imaginative worlds as well.

This skill makes any scenario and act richer, more full, and orgasms (when allowed) more intense, but it is particularly suited to areas of power play.

Power play fantasies are the least suited to solo masturbation. Power play or power exchanges require an agreement, a relationship, between the parties involved; in order to really immerse yourself in such fantasies you need a partner.

When a person wishes to immerse themselves in a role &/or situation where they have no control -- including to the point of seeming to have no value other than pleasing another -- they still seek companionship to do this. Why? Because being humiliated or even ignored by another person has much more poignancy and weight than a person's self-talk during self-flagellation (emotional or physical).

I, the whipper, must make you cringe with fear & whimper with excitement -- but not only because you'd rather I create the rise and fall of the crop & thus providing the anticipation and surprise; I must make you whimper because I understand enough to know how to. And because I care to. The same is true for those who want to assume the power and the control. Without another person, where, how is the power exchanged? Without another person it's very lonely indeed.

Another person, a body, isn't what's really required here. A hand alone creates enough friction and pleasure for sexual release. The body can easily be brought to orgasm; but it's the greater sex organ, the mind, which requires a friction & pleasure of its own sort. Another person is required for understanding, acceptance, and agreement. A person willing & able to manipulate your grey matter at the same tempo that you may manipulate your genitals, so that the crescendo builds to a climax that -- once the composition ends -- you are absolutely certain that you've made beautiful music together.

I take the time, require you to make the time, to reach an understanding of you and your fantasies. I desire to know what makes you tick, so that I can find the perfect rhythm, set the metronome, and compose the sexual symphony of erotica in which we'll enjoy one another's company.

This is what I do -- and why I'm not the one you call when you just want a quick stroke story. (I personally believe there are plenty of books, recorded stories, and films to help you with that.)

This is why the fantasies (and my posts) which vary so much in theme are, yet, beneath it all, very much the same. Understanding & kindness are required for any of them -- even the kink that seems harsh to you. The most controlling Dommes, the most submissive pain sluts, the sissies, cross dressers, and the breast obsessed, they all form relationships. So why wouldn't they, like the vanilla folks, desire love letters or girlfriend experience? The context of the relationships may be different, but beneath it all is the desire to be understood, accepted, and wanted. Are these not the simple elements of companionship? Of love letters?

I believe they are.

Romance, kindness, respect, affection, companionship, a considerate nature, these are not just for the vanilla. The definitions &/or actions of each may differ in each case; but they also do so in each & every relationship. Everyone wants & needs to be understood, accepted and desired for themselves -- including their sexual selves. This can be magnified for those with 'kinkier' arousal, which is often less understood & accepted and therefore very isolating, as well as the very shy and those who have difficulty expressing their desires. And this is why, along with taking the time to listen, a plethora of topics and fantasies are posted here -- to exemplify my understanding and draw out desires.